Relationship's 3 Biggest Needs

May 23, 2023

If you work much with couples who are struggling in their relationship, it quickly becomes clear there might issues in at least one of three key relationship areas.

Men, for several reasons, most of the responsibility for these three relationship needs is yours. Creating STABILITY means that you are creating a relationship in which your partner can develop a sense of consistency. You follow through on the things you promise to do. If you have regular responsibilities, you do them without complaining. Another word you could use for this need is NORMALCY. It is easier to create PEACE when you know what to expect. The second need is SAFETY, this is exactly what it seems to be. Your partner must feel safe or protected. They don’t have to fear because they know that you are concerned about them and will protect them even in the little things. For example, if they feel safer if all the doors are locked at night, then you ensure the doors are locked every night. It may seem overly simple, but this is where safety overlaps with stability. Protecting your partner in the little things is where SAFETY overlaps with SIGNIFICANCE. Often, the little things that are important to your partner done consistently creates a sense of significance, or importance. In other words, your actions, not just your words demonstrate the fact that your partner is important to you. If you create a relationship where your partner knows beyond a shadow of doubt that they are cherished and valued above anything else, it seems to go a long way in keeping balance within the relationship. I think you’ll find that a little effort in these three relationship needs will produce big dividends and keep your relationship healthy and thriving.

Dan Carey